Wow, that is a lot of dating. The question is; is it getting you anywhere. Someone once said that quantity has a quality all of its own. That isn’t a great strategy. It worked for the Japanese early in WWII when our guys had bolt-action Springfields. When our guys got Tommy guns and BAR’s, not so much. Point being is that quantity almost never substitutes for quality.

The desperate vibe does not play well. Seriously, stop the dating carousel for a bit and focus on what you really want. I understand that it is hard at times when you are in the single situation. As a single 38 year old male, understand that.

I don’t want you to be in a situation where out of desperation you find yourself in an abusive situation, or where you find that you have contracted something from one of the partners, or where you find yourself being sexually assaulted by one of the men you went out with in desperation.

For your own sake, pause. Unless you are akin to Grendel’s Mother, odds are, there will be plenty of men interested in getting to know you. Plus, until you take time to pause and think, you may not be able to recognize a suitable partner.