Dear spiritwalker:

There are serious problems in the relationship between your sister and you that are greater than her firefighting sentiment of the moment. I wrote “sentiment” because she may not follow through.

If I was you, I wouldn’t provide her with any help toward becoming a firefighter- it wouldn’t be responsible to the public, to encourage her in this aim. Nothing about what you wrote about her makes me feel particularly safe in case of fire.

And then, she is either not aware of your feelings or is aware and is torturing you. Why don’t you tell her how you feel and watch for her response. Will she ignore your feelings, put you down, mock you…? How has she otherwise responded to your expressed feelings in other areas? This is most important- has she disrespected you repeatedly and unapologetically in the past?

anita