Dear Chau:

you are welcome. You lost the energy to love, you wrote. Well, this is understandable. No one is loving all the time. No one is energetic all the time. This means that everyone loses the energy to love from time to time. This is why in a relationship, it is important that both parties understand this and are always respectful of each other. And when one is hurt, tired, angry, the other lets her be, not making it worse, not giving the other MORE pain.

Your new skill, to not automatically take the blame- it does take getting used to it, cementing, over time, this new understanding, and practicing it every opportunity.

Regarding loving your family, your parents- children love their parents no matter who the parents are- and that is automatic. A parent doesn’t need to earn the child’s love. A parent can be the most horrible parent and person and yet the child will love the parent. It is nature.

Must be very late, isn’t it, or very early in the morning, for you. Hope you are calm and that you return to calm, again and again. When you find yourself over thinking, unwind that thinking wheel. It creates fog and distress. Good thinking happens when we are calm and not tired.

anita