Dear HikerGal74:

In your original post you wrote: “Our break-up talk lasted about 30 minutes as I would not beg or try and talk him out of it- … I immediately removed myself from his life.”

Done too quickly- you were to quick to get it over with and remove yourself from his life. Too quick to accommodate the breakup. This is probably part of the reason you are rethinking this.

If I was you I would initiate talking to him, online or in person, if calm, so to find out what indeed happened??? Would have been a good idea to find out then, by why not now?

He may have been thinking all this time that you didn’t care to have the relationship end, not realizing you were in a strong self protection mode. And I wonder why he ended it, not being happy- these are three or four words: I am not happy. Your relationship deserves more than four words. What happened…

Why don’t you initiate contact so to find out, to talk, to understand?

anitaa