Dear Nan:

It is you who will have to live through leaving R-2 and therefore no one has the right to tell you what you should do or to criticize you for choosing to stay or to leave R-2.

These are my emotions on the issue: it is not right for the good, lovely woman that you are to have spent so many years with R-2 who disrespects you, devalues you and sounds like a despicable man to me. I would like you to be free of him, to live away from him, be it alone or with R-1 who treats you well. Your choice.

Your responsibility is to promote your own physical and mental well being and whatever it takes to do so, do it. I just wrote this to a not yet eighteen year old. It doesn’t change, this principle, when you are sixty or over sixty. It is always the same responsibility.

anita