I can understand her leaving. You lived with her, had sex with her, and sounds like you wanted her to marry you to get citizenship. She put a lot into the relationship, you didn’t get citizenship paperwork done. Can’t say that I blame her for running away when you asked about marriage for the reasons Anita mentioned.

To be honest, if I were her, I would have felt used, and ashamed. Sounds to me that you were setting her up to get what you wanted, and she fell for it right until you made the proposition to do something illegal and she had time to think about it. I can’t blame her one bit that she left. I just feel badly for her, as it sounds like she bought into your claims, and probably did develop feelings for you.

Sorry, but asking somebody to do something illegal and then blaming them for leaving when they realized they got played does not elicit sympathy from me.