Dear ketty:

You are married with a daughter and you work. Your husband would have preferred it if you didn’t work outside the home, that is that you would take care of your daughter and home full time. But you wanted to work and so you do. Problem for him is you spend the money you earn… not on your daughter, or on you and your husband, but on your parents and sister.

If I was your husband, I would be angry at you too. I believe that once you are married and have a child or children, your money should go to your own children and marriage. This should be so for you and your husband. The money he earns should also go for the benefit of your daughter, you and him.

I believe it is not your responsibility to financially take care of your parents or siblings or other family members. If that is what you wanted to do, then remaining single would be the fair choice.

Having stated that, of course he must not be disrespectful of your parents. They must not be looked down at because of their financial or social status.

I hope you and your husband look into solutions and find a way to live that is acceptable to both of you.

anita