grundfield,

Sorry that you are going through this, really I am. If she has a mindset on divorce, unfortunately you can’t control other peoples thoughts. If the covenant of marriage is as important to her as it is to you, possibly she will see that as the case and agree to counseling or even a trial separation before a divorce.

Her words of ILYBINILWY (I love you but I’m not in love with you) and her mentioning that she doesn’t want kids “out of the blue one Sunday morning” tells me there is more to the story than she is leading you to believe. I wish you calmness and peace.