Dear qrasy:

You come from a culture where women think that men are stronger simply because they are males, as if the bodily structure gives men mental strength. Not at all. As you can see yourself, you are deeply hurt and wounded. Your pain is intense.

She doesn’t understand it. She thinks you are all powerful because you are a man. She thought you could get a job, start a business anytime, right away and make it a success, easily. Why? Because you are a man.

You are 27. She is 33 then. In a hurry to get married. she wanted you to hurry. She doesn’t understand the world is not under your control.

Qrasy, she was wrong; she is wrong. She doesn’t understand the basic fact that you are human, breakable just like she is.

Don’t you deserve a woman who understand that you are not all powerful, that you need a woman who is patient with you? Gentle, loving to you? Would be nice if you were involved with a woman who thought of you as an equal, equal in the heart department, loving and easily hurt. And then it would be nice if she cared to not hurt your heart.

anita