Dear G:

Reality doesn’t accommodate wishful thinking. Doesn’t matter how badly you want to get back together with her, your wanting and thinking it is not going to make it so. Your best bet is to be her friend. To be her friend, you’d need to accept the possibility that… being her friend may be the most you will ever be for her. Accepting the possibility that your marriage is over will not make it over or even make your marriage more likely to be over.

Accepting the possibility that your marriage is over will increase the chances that it is NOT over because it will make it possible for you to be her friend. Being her friend can be the beginning of a better-than-ever marriage.

Try to meditate on it being over, think of it and breathe deeply. Again and again until you can think of it without the desperation of past. Do so because it is the best thing you can do FOR the marriage.

anita