Dear neng:

I hope you find out in therapy why you have and had such a strong desire to make an unloving man change and love you. If you are thirsty, let’s say, for water, it would make sense that you will go to a stream of water to drink, and not to a rock and try to get water out of it.

If you are in need to be loved by a man, when you traveled to Maine and when you still attempt to reach out to him, it is you trying to get water out of a rock. The idea that you can thrills you… but it is an impossible quest.

You apologized to him again and again for no reason. Doesn’t seem to me at all that you were wrong. You reacted to his uncaring by crying and getting angry. That is natural. You are human, not a saint.

Do look into what appeals to you in a non loving man, in therapy… Do you have any idea at this point, what appeals to you so much in changing an unloving person (a rock) to a loving person (water)?

anita