Dear butterfly0307:

I think that the only closure you can get from an unreliable guy, a ghosting guy, one who disappears from your life when he feels like it and then reappears when.. he feels like it, without explanation (what a crazy making behavior over time!), is to have no more contact with him.

Any “last contact” can be like any of the last contacts, that is a disappearance before the reappearance. When ghosted by him and continuing the relationship following his ghosting of you, you lost control over your life. To regain control, end it this moment, never to re-visit the topic, no matter how you feel.

Find the strength within you to say goodbye to him in your own brain. Calm down and keep calm best you can.

anita