Dear CMI:

The thing with personality disorders/ mental diagnoses is that some people think a personality disorder is like a virus a person catches or something a person was born with. But it is not so. These diagnoses are combinations of symptoms, combinations decided upon by medical doctors in meetings. The root causes are way fewer than the many resulting symptoms. I like to simplify and look at root causes.

One thing I noticed in your ex girlfriend’s behavior according to your latest posts is her lack of empathy for you. Lack of empathy for a boyfriend is a serious deficit, no matter what diagnosis it fits. Lack of empathy means she doesn’t see or care about your pain.

It doesn’t matter what diagnosis a person received, in what combination of behaviors the lack of empathy exists. When a person has no empathy for you, my goodness, where do you go from there?

anita