Dear savannah1:

You didn’t give me an example, only areas of incongruence, at best: vegetarianism and objectifying women.

If these are areas he didn’t examine much before, didn’t investigate, wasn’t aware of, then what he told you: “… that I was a major factor of his awareness and seeing life on a different angle”- will explain seeming incongruence. For example if he told you: yes, it makes sense to not eat animals (his words) and then he continues to eat animals (action)- then this is not evidence of him being untrustworthy, not at all. It means that at the moment you gave him your position against eating meat, it sounded logical to him. Later, out of habit and his enjoyment of meat, he chooses to still eat meat.

When he told you that you are increasing his awareness it means he is in the process of becoming aware, so it is not reasonable to expect him to jump from no awareness to full awareness. Such takes time.

I hope you don’t pressure him in any way to be a vegetarian and become an activist.

Hope you post again. This is an interesting discussion to me.

anita