Dear Sylvie:

Placing individuals in the same place where a wedding takes place will not bring those individuals closer emotionally, only physically closer for the night. No emotional closeness is likely to happen as a result. So why bother, I agree again.

Hope you have a good talk with your daughter. Since she is stressed with her planned wedding, bring up the topic in a light hearted way, matter of fact, without expressing significant distress about it.

And then, if the two of you agree- bring it up matter of fact to your boyfriend as a done-deal and move on.

anita