Dear jade green:

Am I understanding correctly: he told you that the relationship with his ex girlfriend was over two months before he met you while in reality the relationship with her ended while he was in a relationship with you but a week before you and him became sexual?

If I understand correctly, I don’t see this relationship as a lost cause. It is unfortunate of course, that he lied to you but his saving grace- in my mind (of course, YOUR mind is what counts in your life)- is that the relationship with her was over BEFORE you and him became sexually involved.

If he has been a good man and partner to you and is a decent man otherwise, then this may be a part of the Human Imperfection we have to accept. It may be too big of an issue to you, so you decide of course what is an acceptable imperfection for you.

Hope you post again: I will be glad to communicate with you further on the matter.

anita