Dear xoxoxo:

Well, you didn’t deserve him calling you “stupid” or abusing you in any other way. it was not your fault that he behaved that way. Your parents told you to tell him to stop using that word. You told him to stop and he didn’t stop. This is all I need to know that you did the right thing to end this relationship.

To avoid the LOA as you called it, learn who the guy is next time before you get too emotionally involved. Know him over time, see how he treats you, that he doesn’t call you names, that he doesn’t force anything on you, that he respects you- over time. Then slowly, as slowly as you can, get closer to him.

In other words, make sure the guy is safe for you before you get so close that you can get hurt.

anita