Hey Butterfly,

I feel the same after a breakup last year – there was too much history, we tried to be in touch but it got painful, especially for him because I had moved on so soon. Then we decided to maintain very less or no contact. He got busy with his work, I ended up changing messenger numbers for other reasons but eventually kept him in the loop through an email – he isnt on my social media anymore though – just that one messenger.

I understand now why keeping space despite an amicable breakup is necessary – time to heal and let go of bitterness, resentment if any is important. It will never be the same again but time makes it easier. Only you will know with time whether this person is worth staying friends with – the first guy I dated seriously seriously really hurt me and never apologized in the end and hence I say his true colours. I cut him out after the breakup tbough he later wanted to be friends. I just couldn’t trust him.

So basically, you gotta decide whether this person is someone you want to keep in touch with? I wouldn’t suggest all out meeting and regular talking though when you are trying to move on from things and dating other people until it’s like 1-2 years after atleast.

The rest you will know best based on your situation 🙂