Dear dreaming715:

I think I misunderstood about you being confrontational. You wrote in an earlier post then, that you were afraid to be confrontational, not that you were.

From previous threads we came to certain insights, one was that you need to be assertive in these beginning relationships, ask questions and listen to answers, get the information that you need, evaluate the man and express your thoughts, feelings, needs.

In the post above though you wrote: “I’m honestly nervous to talk to him about how I’m feeling because to be honest I don’t feel he’s that emotionally invested in me or our new relationship. I fear a true “sit down talk” (even a pleasant one), would be a turn-off at this point and possibly push him away.”

In this latest quote you are stating, as I understand it, that you are not ready to be assertive, not ready to have honest conversations and for the same reason as appears to be again and again: being afraid such will push him away.

But NOT doing these things (talking, sharing, asserting) is pushing the men away.

So I am at a loss. I wasn’t helpful to you so far. I wish I was.

anita