Hi Carla,

You know, I don’t think hashing out exactly what religious feelings he had that led to him ending the relationship is all that useful. You don’t know why exactly he ended it. But you do know that he did. Whatever lovely feelings he may or may not still have with you, however sweet he was in the park, he does not want to be with you. That’s why he broke up with you.

It’s ok to still be struggling after a few months, especially if you still see him every day. But don’t hang on to this hope that he may come back. If he wanted to be with you, he would be. Guard your heart. When it goes on a heated tangent about how maybe he’ll come back and things will be like they used to be, remind it that he is gone. And things are not ever going to be like they used to be, but new and exciting things can still happen. Maybe a new man, maybe a holiday in Iceland, maybe a new job, maybe just a TV show you’re really into. Love life.

Treat your heart gently, but don’t let it lie to you. He’s gone. If you knew why, you might feel better because understanding things is nice, but it wouldn’t change the facts. He’d still be gone.

Put down the detective work, and close the case. Embrace all that’s good about your life and it will slowly get easier.

Be well.