Dear beecurious:

The exchange with his ex, the parts he wrote to her in themselves would not be much of a concern to me, as I see things at this time in my life. The feelings he expressed to her mean nothing much.

But there are consequences to action. He exchanged with her online what is inappropriate for a man who is in a relationship with another woman (you). Therefore he destroyed any argument he had or may have for why he should still communicate with her. He did it by the exchange.

So I would tell him: “I no longer trust that you and her are just friends. My trust is based on what you wrote to her (give him the quotes you shared here on this thread). So I need you to end all contact with her, as amicably as you wish.”

He has to be held responsible for the exchange he had with her. No contact with her.

If you take my advice and he argues against your assertion that he ends the contact with her, if I was you, I wouldn’t argue with him, only listen to his reasoning and post them here. We’ll take it from there.

anita