Some questions to ponder, Why do you think he was unhappy with his job and life? Why did you leave the country? Why did you decide to start a business together? Why did that business fail? Why did he fall into the role he is now playing? Why was he so miserable in this role? What role does he want to play in the relationship? Do you appreciate the role he has taken on in the relationship? Are you supportive in the role he has taken on in the relationship? Do you criticize him in the role he has taken on in the relationship? Why won’t he take time for himself? Why is he becoming more controlling, more jealous, more fearful? Why do you feel so tired and drained in a relationship that is supposed to be the opposite? Why does he also feel tired, miserable and drained in this relationship? Why don’t you both communicate what you are both feeling, thinking and desiring to one another? What is causing this separation? Why is he lacking motivation? Why is he so dependent upon you? Why does he want to limit the contact his children have with their grandparents?