Dear Shamrocky,

Please make it clear to your boyfriend gently but firmly that you don’t like him discussing personal details about your relationship. Ask him how he would feel if he found you complaining about their relationship with your male friends? Suggest something like you would prefer he would directly talk to you first or keep a journal (for example Penzu) instead. Suggest he tries websites like 7cups.com if he needs to anonymously vent about relationship issues. Over time though, I highly recommend you stop checking the phone or other portals if any. He needs to do his bit and so do you for the trust to happen in the relationship.

Regards,
Nina