Dear questionmark:

You mentioned “a borderline disorder”- do you mean Borderline Personality Disorder?

This is my input so far: the screaming, the hostility around your baby has to stop. If the hostility around the baby continues, it will harm your baby. The hostility, raised voices will become reality in between his ears, and a life of distress begins for him.

Whatever choice is congruent with your child’s well being, please do make that choice: be it continuing the marriage or separating.

If you were diagnosed with BPD, it is not necessarily a lifetime condition. It is a combination of symptoms stemming from a core issue, and that core issue (from childhood, most likely) can be healed to a great extent. I can share more about this point if you’d like.

And just because you were diagnosed with this or that disorder (an identified combination of symptoms at the time of diagnosis)- does not mean your husband is not displaying a combination of symptoms of his own, suffering from a core issue himself.

anita