Dear Ganesha:

You had a certain relationship with your boyfriend for 11 months, a relationship that considered a future together, as I understand it. Currently you are still having a relationship with the same man with the difference of not considering a future together post May 2017. Did I understand correctly?

You are having a good time with him but you are unhappy about neglecting your fitness, healthier nutrition and social life outside of the relationship with your boyfriend.

Maybe you can do both: balance fitness, nutrition and girlfriend time AND the relationship with your boyfriend. I understand your reluctance to date other men while you are having a boyfriend.

I think it is a good idea for you to keep talking with your boyfriend, keep evaluating your motivations and his, keep acknowledging and expressing your feelings for him and regarding the May 2017 deadline of the relationship. If you come to peace with the deadline or find yourself no longer in peace with it, re-evaluate your relationship and proceed from there.

Please do post anytime.

anita