Dear sugarhut:

I wrote my last post to you before I read your last additional posts. You wrote at one point that you observed, as a child, an abusive relationship between your mother and a step father. Is that correct?

And you decided you will not be in such a relationship but ended up in one, your current relationship.

What are your plans at this point, your motivation in regard to this relationship, is it one or any combination of the following:
1. Live with as is, endure the unpleasant and enjoy the pleasant?
2. Change it: make him change to a loving, respectful man to you?
3. Exit the relationship?

anita