Hey Charlotte,

I went through your other posts and all I can say is: Its okay, do what is right for you.

You are hurting, you spent 5 years with her emotionally invested, you had physical relations with her – she wasn’t committed to you in the relationship but you were. I am not surprised she moved on like this with that guy – if she couldn’t acknowledge you two in so many years, what future were you expecting anyway?

And you don’t have some damn switch like a robot without feelings where you can be like “sure, be nice to me and break my heart while caring for me. i love you too much to hurt you but you can” – i am sure she has other friends in her life too for this emotional support and loneliness problem. It is not your duty to deal with hers in any way.

I agree with Inky, maintain space from this person, let it hurt her but please stop letting this situation hurt you.

You aren’t happy – you are heartbroken and guilty over feeling what you feel….Get ahead with your life. You deserve someone who wants to be with you for real, not this ambiguous blurry line…think about it, would you have continued your whole life doing this?

Maintaining this association of ambiguity while she moves on…think about it, she gets married someday while you are still in love, still angry at her and yourself for not moving ahead…

dont you deserve better?

Regards
Nina