Thank you, this helps me a lot and gives me validation to what I am feeling and how I choose to distance myself in reaction to the distance that was placed upon me and my son by both her and her son. I will probably read over again and again the points you make in this last post because it touches on exactly what my problem is, letting him choose his way of dealing while allowing me to choose my way as an adult who has more experience with true friendship. Because I do not want to welcome that boy into our home, at least not right now, unless he comes to realize that he betrayed a friend (my son), who, even after the betrayal, continued to try to keep the friendship going, but was still cast aside without regard to the impact of the hurt it all truly caused.