Dear Anna:

You are a courageous woman and your boyfriend will be very fortunate to have you as his wife! My goodness, you are a fighter and I am impressed.

So your boyfriend’s mother is okay with you and her son getting married and her only problem is to say No to these people..? Can you hold her one hand and your boyfriend, her son hold her other hand as she says that very important NO, on the phone (since they live far)? Can you all come up with some good story so to make your boyfriend’s mother less fearful (as the two of you hold her hands) to say that crucial NO?

That would be best because she is okay with you being the wife and she has the power with the fiancée’s parents.

You don’t know the fiancé’s parents, do you? And they live a distance away so you are planning to talk to them on the phone? Too many unknowns here… better apply my first suggestion on this post, less unknowns.

Let’s say there is no other way (better be!) and you are about to talk to her parents on the phone- they don’t know you, do they?

Well, I have to wait for an answer: do the fiancée’s parents know you and are you thinking of talking to them on the phone (or skype or will you travel to meet them in person)?

And what about my first suggestion here?

anita