Dear slider:

Too bad your wife, who knows your history, has no mercy for you. Does read like a bully.

If I was you, I would pack my things and leave first chance you get when she is not home. Stay somewhere safe, away from her. What is the point of having another “talk” when a talk means exposing yourself to another bullying session.

It doesn’t matter what her complaints are: as long as she bullies you, she is in the definite wrong and it is your job to protect yourself… not to take care of the bully, but to protect the one being bullied.

If I was you, I would not do the talk today- a losing proposition for you. Tell her you are not feeling well and pack your things and leave when she is gone and you predict her to be gone long enough for you to move out.

Once you move out, talk to her in the presence of a lawyer or a psychotherapist.

anita