Dear None:

What you are saying is that you meet people that mistreat you again and again, maybe always, and so even if you had nothing to do with your mother, it is your… fate to be mistreated by everyone else that you meet. Am I correct?

Couple of truths that I have learned following being mistreated by my own mother and going out into the world without healing:

There are lots of people who want to be in control of other people so to satisfy their aims. For plenty of men, it is the aim of using women for sexual pleasure without any investment on their part or consequence. There is a weak woman who thinks there is something wrong with her… who thinks she is unworthy, so all it takes on the part of the man is to show any kind of interest and the woman is in his disposal. He can have sex with her and she will not ask for anything at all, not even a “please” or “thank you.”

For plenty of women, it is the weak man (or woman in same sex relationships) who feels unworthy… and will take her abuse without objection.

There are, indeed, plenty of people out there on the prowl of a woman like you.

And what does “a woman like you” mean? A woman who feels unworthy.

The thing is, None, you are worthy. I know it because you were born that way and I know it because you are suffering. If you were truly without value, you wouldn’t suffer over it. You are not a… (an example) penguin, but it doesn’t bother you- you don’t suffer for not being a penguin because you are, in reality, not a penguin.

But you suffer for bring treated as unworthy because you are, in reality, worthy.

I too used to believe very much that I was unworthy and I suffered a whole lot. But now, after enough healing I know I am worthy and always was. And so are you.

anita