Dear None:

You asked: “How after such experiences in life a person can recognize the ones that are using people and the ones that have true intentions without getting “’scratched’?”

My answer: you evaluate a person before you get involved with that person, before you let that person in. Even on this very forum right here. There are people replying to your posts: I am one. Pay attention to any particular reply you receive: does it make sense? Does it follow logic? If you believe in science (I do!)- is the reply congruent with science?

If a reply is not logical, it means the person replying does not follow logic.

Pay attention to any particular reply: does the person show patience there or impatience? Is it negatively critical of you or kind and accepting? If the reply is impatience and negatively critical, well it means that the person replying is impatience and critical.

Maybe that person is only.. temporarily impatient. So you look at the next reply and the next. You keep evaluating. Always look at WHO is saying what and determine a person’s motivation.

Same thing with life outside the internet. Evaluate BEFORE becoming involved, this is how you avoid being hurt. Only when, over time you observe, learn and evaluate a person to be honest, fair, kind… then you get involved.

Things shouldn’t be … happening to us if we have a say in their happening to us- or not. Better not be passive participants.

There is no entity that makes things happen to us for a reason. Things happen, yes and you can learn from them or not. But no predetermined reason.

anita