Dear greenshade:

You wrote above: ” this is the second time in the past few months where Ive become attached to someone unavailable and Im not quite sure why Im acting this way or how I can stop it”

I reviewed some of your previous threads, of most relevance to the why you are attached to someone unavailable is your thread from June this year.

In that thread you wrote that your father, with whom you live, does not want you to leave home and sabotaged previous efforts on your part to leave home temporarily on work trips or for any reason. He was very much against the arranged marriage suggestion, not wanting you to marry so that you will stay home.

I am thinking that the reason you fixate on unavailable men is because a relationship with an available man is not an option for you. It is not an option for you because your father will be against it, forbidding you from having such a relationship.

What do you think and feel about my suggestion?

anita