Dear mommalicious:

This is a way to shorten the duration of that feeling you hate, the desperation (“I hate the desperation I feel”- stop hating it.

This is a very important principle that will save you a lot of time and pain: to not add a second unpleasant feeing to the first unpleasant feeling you have.

When you feel desperate, that is bad enough, right? On top of it you feel hate. If you stop the second feeling, then overall there is less distress, less suffering.

How do you stop hating the desperation? By focusing on self empathy in place of the hate. The desperation you feel for him is fueled by your emotional attachment to him. Emotional attachment is very natural and starts with a baby being emotionally attached to a parent. Have empathy for yourself, being attached to him as you are.

anita