Dear None:

You can evaluate. Let’s say a person acts “like the sweetest living creature in the beginning” but later he acts like “the greatest villain” – how can you tell he is a villain at first when he acts so sweetly?

1. Pay attention to how he talks about others, is he as sweet about others as he is with you? Or does he hate everyone and is only sweet to you?
2. Pay attention to how he behaves with others, how he treats others in your presence: is he as sweet to them?
3. Ask yourself what is his motivation with you: what does he want from you? is his sweetness specific to a person he wants something from, something like physical intimacy?
4. Notice how his anger looks like. How does he/she act when he doesn’t get what he wants?

There is so much more. If a person is so sweet to you, don’t overdose on the sugar but keep your eyes open, learn over time.

And if a person is rude to you, disrespectful, acting as if you are unimportant, stay away from that person, be it a stranger or a family member.

anita