One more thing, intuition, about what you texted the guy who verbally abused you: ““Anger is suffering, and I am sorry that you suffer..” – this is why I mentioned it in my first reply to you, it needs clarification:

Feeling anger and not expressing it, hiding it as if it was a bad feeling, unjustified, while trying to act kindly toward the person abusing you- that is suffering.

Feeling anger and expressing it assertively- that is not suffering- once you stand up for yourself, being direct and clear, that feels good.

Unfortunately the following is also true: feeling anger and expressing it aggressively, abusively also feels good to the abuser. This is why it abusers often repeat abusing- it feels better.

And so, when you texted the guy that you are sorry for his suffering, I believe he didn’t suffer. You did!

anita