Dear jlo5:

It is not necessarily the concern for his well being that has kept you with him but your fear of not being with him. Because you are emotionally attached to him you are afraid to live without him. You wrote: ” I feel very fragile since talking to him yesterday and before I was feeling strong.”

You felt strong before talking to him, but after you talking to him you became fearful, fearful for your own (perceived) safety. Emotional attachment means safety to us, even when in reality the relationship is dangerous (to us and to our kids!). Moving away from the object of our emotional attachment translates as danger although in reality, in your case and in your children’s case, it translates to safety.

anita