Cheryl,

You mentioned before that he was having a mid life crisis. Indeed taking back his resources he previously invested in supporting your marriage and going back to play with toys is childish. Also the fact about your finances. Didn’t he know your financial situation when you got together? Mid life crisis itself is a burst of long suppressed unresolved childish issues, not acknowledging their role as adult, responsibilities as a man to support his woman, and travel back in time.

You sound disappointed and you are right. The adult man he was supposed to be is acting like a child. Physical intimacy is just his way to conveniently take from you what he is missing out from the separation. But you also miss having someone beside you and his support. So it’s quid pro quo.

I hope that differentiating between how he is supposed to behave as an adult and man, and how he is actually behaving like a teenager, would help you go through feeling unworthy or “awlful” person. “being too critical” – this statement also sounds like a child complaining they have to do their homework. We women are allowed to be emotional and complain, men are not, men are supposed to be our support.