Dear mountaindrew:

I don’t like the idea of a surprise visit- it feels wrong to me. Definitely feels like a bad idea to me.

A casual postcard- not as bad as an idea but not a good one either.

An apology letter- a better idea than the above two. In such a letter I would include your intent to work on yourself further, what kind of work that would be (psychotherapy?). I wouldn’t make any promises in such a letter (like promise you will never behave the way you have if he accepted you back into his life) and I wouldn’t beg for him to take you back. I would detail to him what you did wrong. Not why, just what and how that was wrong to be done to him.

Post again, anytime.

anita