Dear Sam:

You are very, very busy with work and studies. It may be helpful to you in some regard, to be so busy. At the same time it is taxing and draining, naturally.

Between the busy time and the time communicating with him, find a moment to take a deep breath and relax, so that your communication with him is not always venting and downloading the stresses of the day.

Your “desire to be needed and irreplaceable”- oh, I know that desire! It started when I was very young, not being valued by the adults in my life, being invisible-like. Not being considered. I later wanted to over-compensate- be the ONLY one in another’s life.

Working through the hurts of the child that you were, and still are, psychically, will help, maybe in psychotherapy (if you had the time…), so that the early hurts stop imposing themselves in your present time.

Post anytime.

anita