Hi Chau, (and everyone reading this!)

I have just read your previous threads, and genuinely feel sorry about what you have gone through but also touched by how you have coped with it. Well done for coming so far. I’ve previously posted on TinyBuddha too – and I was surprised to find that our stories are somewhat similar. It was a 5-year long same-sex relationship (although in my case the relationship is secretive and NOT acknowledged as a romantic one) that ended with the other person leaving me for someone else. It happened around 2.5 months ago and even now, I’m still weirdly obsessed with the thought of her being with someone else – although I am quite certain I am gradually letting go. Some days are ok but some days are worse. Since it was a secretive relationship I never had the chance to speak to any of my friends or family about it, and had been having counselling sessions. And this forum too has been my go-to place when I feel vulnerable and weak facing my own emotions. Do keep us posted – like Anita, I’d love to hear more from you. You are not alone in finding this past event still haunting you after a while. I myself try to go about my daily life as normally and productively as possible (I am a university student) but there’s a constant cloud of heaviness in my heart/head, and sometimes the thoughts keep me from concentrating on what I do. Do share more about how you feel if it helps you relieve your stress and unwanted feelings.