This reminds me a great deal of the classic 12 steppers serenity prayer.

Serenity Prayer

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

(Although known most widely in its abbreviated form above,
the entire prayer reads as follows…)

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

Whadayaknow! I just looked it up and learned something new. I always thought it ended after the first part.

Anyway, that “wisdom” to “know the difference” is always the hard part.

I have heard some discern it by saying that pain is just pain, suffering is created within by the mind as it resists what “is”.

I have read accounts from those who nearly died of drowning who described an intense panic and struggle full of terror. Then at a certain point, they gave up the struggle and were enveloped by a profound sense of peace. Perhaps a bit too intense, but nevertheless a metaphor for many other kind of suffering in life.