Dear jess:

Indeed a messy situation over seven years. When you ask if you are in denial, do you mean in denial of the situation with your more recent boyfriend being hopeless?

If so, I don’t know if it is hopeless but the mess is still messy: the ex, the recent ex boyfriend, the childhood friend… you were not honest enough through the years, not with the ex and not with the recent boyfriend.

If I was you, I would become very honest, with myself, first and then with the others, if you have the chance. But first with yourself: why did you hide the ex from your bf? Why did you hide your bf from your ex?

Hiding: what is hidden needs to come out and see the light, I say.

anita (same person who answered your first thread, different account)