Dear Charlotte:

Nice name, Charlotte. I am not surprised that you are an attorney working with abused and neglected youth: you wrote in a previous post on this thread: ” I do take on the healer/helper position pretty often”- so you have, as an attorney! And as a friend to this man. After all, abuse is so common and the consequences of abuse do not disappear once a youth matures into the fourth decade of life (your friend is in his thirties).

I hope your friend, intent on giving his sister one more chance, will give her a different type of a chance than he had so far, setting limits and keeping them, being consistent, assertive.

anita