Dear whyhellothere:

Obviously, you didn’t want competition for being Number 1 in her life. Once she started dating again, your Number 1 position in her life was threatened. She was spending time with this or that guy, new candidates for Number 1. So you fought the competition, through her, giving her a hard time for dating.

It seems to me that being umber 1 in her life is no longer possible for you, unless, maybe, if she stops dating, or have her heart break in a relationship. Then maybe the old arrangement will be re-instated. Do you wish for that to happen?

If she accepts you back into her life not as Number 1, not as the “best friend” which she told you is too much for her (the exclusive part of it, that is the requirement that she doesn’t date), but as a friend- are you willing and able to be that, a friend, and no longer fight the competition?

anita