Dear Nan:

I was wondering about R-2’s (current husband) motivation for going along with the inconvenient process of selling the house. My understanding of his motivation is that he was worried about his savings of 40K (a saving made possible by you paying the bills for many years from your individual salary) being used to repair the house. In addition to not having to spend his savings, he got to add to it proceeds from the sale of the house. Did I get it correctly?

Take care of yourself, Nan. Your primary responsibility, now that you don’t have a minor child, is to attend to your own well being, physical, emotional. It is way overdue for you to let go of false responsibilities. It’s just you now, or should be, I believe- just you.

anita