The most important part is that you assert yourself, that you do spend your time with whom and how you want to spend it. How you do it is secondary to your need to take care of yourself first.

I prefer the straight forward solution to most problems. I would feel better about myself telling her straightforwardly than postponing seeing her with no explanation. I would feel stronger (for being assertive) and honest (for being honest).

^that is what rings most true to me. I would think that she will be able to hear me out and, hopefully, be Okay with whatever I’m saying I need in my life.

Thanks so much.