Dear Avalos:

You mentioned loyalty to your mother and your boyfriend being a loyal person. Loyalty is something you value highly and so do I. Except that I value seeing reality for what it is the most. I will no longer make-believe reality is something it is not, so to be loyal to any person.

See your mother as she is and see your boyfriend as he is. With accurate viewing of reality, you are best equipped to make the right decisions, for yourself and for others. What is a Win for you, will also be, on the long run, a Win for someone else.

I learned that being loyal to another by accommodating their delusions, their distorted thinking, does nothing to help them and does everything to hurt me.

anita