Hello Brav3. Thank you very much for your post. I had come here to start a thread looking for help and after I read what you wrote all the lights went off in my head. I believe I had some of that information floating around in my head but I don’t practice it. I’m glad to read it from someone else’s view and take it to heart. I just left a 4 year relationship that was filled with utter chaos and mistreatment. I am struggling not to look back and try to reconcile or even waste my time to make sense of it because that is just pointless. 4 years with someone is long enough to see their good and bad and realize when the bad outwieghs the good there is no reason to stay anymore. Your post truly confirms this for me.