Dear sereneshunshine:

Your question then “Is it actually possible to have a relationship if you have anxiety, and relationships are the cause of your anxiety?”

My answer: No. Fear is the most powerful emotion there is. When danger is perceived, an animal will abandon anything and everything it is doing (eating, mating, playing, resting…) and will 100% attend to the source of danger. Same with the woman you are referring to. She feels fear, she focuses on it and makes (in this case) her Flight: “she had a panic attack and broke it off… 4 weeks later and another panic attack and she has ended it again”.

My advice is to not wait for her. However much love you can have for her, patience and time… you are no match to the power of Fear-Flight dynamic, well established in our nature.

anita